Embarrassing Questions That Kids Ask
Kids are the most inquisitive beings around. They take some time to grasp the language after they are born and once they start their questions never stop. Why is the earth round? Why is the sky blue? Is the train moving or the road? And one day they ask you something that stumps you.
Mommy, where do babies come from?
What is this hanging in between this boy’s leg?
And many such embarrassing ones.
You may or not be prepared to answer these at the moment. I myself have been tongue tied at these moments. But rather than shooing them away, let’s take some tips from smart moms all over the world and we can be ’embarrassing questions ready’ the next time they are targetted at us.
If your child asks you an embarrassing question when you’re out in public, answer as honestly as you can, sticking to facts and avoiding imposing your judgments. Again, you will want to speak softly, suggesting that it’s best to ask questions that might make someone uncomfortable when that person isn’t nearby. Some ideas to tackle these questions;
Why is that man so fat?
People come in every type of shape and size. He is heavier than some people, and other people are much taller.
What’s the F-word?
This usually hits us by surprise and no matter how prepared we are for this one. I have noticed this one hits us by surprise at any age. I first heard it in when I was in class 12th, my elder one used it when he was seven and my younger one when he was four. Shocking!! But that’s how the environment around us has changed. This word has the power because it causes a reaction. If a child knows it or about it, then it’s not a big deal—it takes all the energy out of it. So if he is 8 or beyond explain him or if he is younger then just distract the kid, but do not make a big deal of it. When the child sees no reaction, he will not use it.
What are periods?
I found this lovely snippet being circulated on various facebook groups and thought of sharing it, how a mom explains about periods to her 10-year old son. Yes, it’s a good age to explain them about the bird and the bees, if you don’t do it the kids will search for answers elsewhere and that can be dangerous with so much information floating around;
My almost 10-year-old son saw a sanitary napkin ad on television and came to me and asked me what periods meant. At that point I was a bit taken aback, also I was not prepared at that instance with what exactly I did like to tell him. I bought time from him and told him that I am a bit tied up with work. I will sit down and explain soon. He forgot soon but I told myself that I do need to tell him. After much thinking I called him and told him, can we sit down and talk about what you asked me. I told him you asked me about periods and I am sure you are curious to know. He was now all ears to my explanation. I told him, that you are aware that only women give birth to babies. Women hence have a special bag inside them called the womb in which the baby stays while it’s inside the mom’s tummy. Boys don’t have his bag. This bag gets a lining every month which provides nutrition to a baby if inside that bag. But if the baby is not there then the nutrition of that lining expires like any food we buy and it comes out, like all the waste of our body comes out. Hence like babies need diapers to keep clean similarly women need sanitary napkins to keep clean. He pretty much seemed happy with my explanation. I felt good that I explained it and heaved a sigh of relief. Explaining things to kids can be pretty tough a job!!!!!
We can’t list all questions that you may have to face but we can definitely give you advice on how should you react to your child’s embarrassing questions
- Stay relaxed. I’m being completely serious. Don’t rush out having a laugh or run away in pity. Instead, remain relaxed and only react when you can keep your composure. Why remain calm? So young children will continue providing personal issues to you. If you overact to your child’s issues, then they’ll avoid you in the future and ask someone else they experience more relaxed referring to the “deeper factors of life” with.
- Give an “as needed” response. I have repeated to my children over and over that I want them to know as much about a particular subject as possible. However, motherhood, it’s also my liability to figuring out when they are ready for information about delicate subjects. When issues do occur about essential, but unpleasant issues, I quickly decide what information they need to know at their particular age. As they mature, I provide them with more information. But, I always provide them with some sort of response that does help them on their trip of learning and exploration!
- Keep the collections of interaction open. Don’t close down your child’s query instantly. Take the chance to pay attention to your child’s issues, issues and ideas. Bring up the subject again if you think young children grow up in this area and would appreciate extra information. Then, convert around and ask young children issues their past searching issues. Communication is key in a healthy parent/child relationship!
- Use real-life illustrations, designs, characteristics or even guides to response these types of issues. By making the effort and finding out an effective way to response your child’s query, young children will see that her issues are indeed essential to you! Plus, providing in outside sources can create everyone more relaxed about difficult topics!
Children are interested and have lots of issues. It’s unavoidable that they will humiliate you at times. But you can convert these unpleasant circumstances on their head if you see them as educating minutes and design how to regard the variations and emotions of others.
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