How dads can teach sons to respect women
My husband and I often have arguements about how to bring up our kids. I think our parents did a splendid job and especially both our moms. While I get to spend more time with my boys as I work from home, as they are growing up they look up more to their dad. My elder one likes to emulate my husband all the time. This is what I tell my hubby and this is what I strongly believe; a lot of values that the boys learn are from their dads and after a certain age they may not confide in me for their problems. So that bond has to develop for them being able to approach him and learn from him. Learning to respect women being one of the most essential one.
There are a lot of misconceptions out there about how a man is supposed to treat a woman. As a father, he must build this quality within our kids since the early age which can be started from the home itself. What are my reasons and how can dads teach their sons to respect women?
Kids believe what their Dads say
As a father, your job is to love and respect your wife and other women. Our kids listen to how we talk about our family and how we speak about other women and girls. The gender criticism trickles into our sons (and daughters) and is powerfully undermining of building respect. So be a role model.
You Need To Talk More
Sometimes we have to talk about gender differences (like the fact that girls are the ones who fall pregnant, and are likely to be physically weaker than boys when it comes to gender violence), but in many instances, respect is about ‘respecting people,’ irrespective of their gender. If we role model compassion, non-judgment, and kindness to everyone, that’s the message that sinks into our kids.
Take A Stand
Remember to correct people when they crack a sexist joke or make a sexist remark in front of your kids. This is going to form basic ethics of your child’s life. Parents are observed by their kids every day and this is where they inculcate their values from. So sometimes we need to take a stand and speak up for our kids to learn to stand up to issues.
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Do That Sex Talk Early
With technology seeping into our kids lives they might get exposed to porn much earlier than what you have anticipated. Instead of getting flabbergasted the best way would be to talk to them, counsel them and make them understand why it might be disturbing for you. This also helps them understand the opposite gender better.
Teach your kids about feminism
Being ‘feminist’ simply means, that we know we are all living in a world which is full of social, economic and political inequality. I see a lot of grown men squirm at the mention of the word feminism. That is why, the education about the word feminism has to start early in life and coming from the dad, would make a lot of sense to the boy. Not only women they meet outside their homes but their moms and their sisters should be treated with respect. Little bonds that we create through Rakhi and bhaidooj, wherein one the brother promises to protect whereas in the second one the sister promises to protect the brother. Our traditions also teach us mutual respect and equality. Use them to set the right examples. Let them be caretakers for their little sisters. Girls tend to bring in softness in character and evoke protectiveness from those around.
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Laugh
There are so many things to get frustrated over in this modern world and this is the reason why we all need something called as a sense of humor. Life is not only about being serious because we all have one life so let’s make it worth. We can laugh at ourselves – with all our flaws and failures, and this is how our kids will learn the same and grow.
You can teach your son the value of respect by showing him respect and how you treat your mom, your sister and your wife. Whatever your son’s age, remember, your influence as his dad is strong so tread carefully, his future choices and habits depend on his upbringing.
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This is how it should be in every household. Very nice post
You are so right. Kids really belive and follow the footprints of their father. I hope every father takes this thing into account.
Father and son is the most important relationship they actually understand each other so well that a son get direct impact of what his dad say and beleive. Thanks for sharing this post I loved reading it.
“Do That Sex Talk Early” Totally agree with this. I think it’s best that kids hear it straight from their parents. It does seem awkward talking about it to your children but what’s important is that if they have questions (maybe in the future), they won’t hesitate talking to us since at one point in their lives we’ve opened it up to them. The openness between parents and children is extremely important these days.
Hope this post reaches all men. As you rightly concluded, treat women at your home with respect and dignity, kids at home will automatically learn from the man of the house.
Much needed post in today’s situation of India regarding women! Sharing this with my friends and family.
That was master piece u wrote, we should inculcate the value if women’s respect right from childhood
Wow just amazing write up. And I totally agree with you that a dad can teach about the lesson of respect of women to his son much better than even his mother. Son behaves actually the same hows their father does. So its dad’s responsibility to teach him how to treat women. I really like your tips on this. Very useful. Thanks for sharing
Very informative and beautiful post.. It’s good info for daddy’s
This is such a pratical post, Prerna. My son is 9 and I see him look upto my husband lot more now than he did when he was younger. We believe in talking to him, not like a child, and since he has a little sister too it is easier and more important to get the respect and equality point across.
Very nice blog of “How Dads Can Teach Sons to Respect Women” now days no one teach that type of etiquette to his children ,very good blog for respect woman.Keep It up
This is mind blowing post where a dad teaches and now I can share it everybody responsibilities to teach a kid
These are helpful tips! Many father’s haven’t had an open relationship with their dads and now wonder where to start with their kids.
Kids actually learn automatically how elders at home are behaving.
most inspirational and motivational idea for respect women
Agree with your all points… Kids always believe first one their dad’s talk… Every points you have mentioned are really necessary…
This is such an important lesson which not dad’s and other male members of our houses need to allow kids to learn, from their actions, behaviors as well.
This is one of the best posts on parenting i have read till date.. i am really going to share it with my whole family
Very nice article. Every dad should read this.
lovely collection of thoughts and ideas, which indeed, if kids were taught, would make such a difference!
You are summing up such excellent points here. Beautifully written. Will share this post with my family and friends.
What lovely tips to help Dad do his part .Parenting needs both .Its non negotiable.
That’s a beautiful post and important too… every father must read!!
Very much logical writing covering almost every dimensions.
The behavior of male members with the females leaves big impact on child’s psychology.