Motherhood may have been described as a joyous experience over the ages but sometimes it can hit you like a catapult and every time you try and come up you feel like drowning. Overwhelmed, hitting exhaustion levels, cranky, moody? These are all signs that you need to stop and take a break. Find that “me time” for a lady to maintain her sanity. The responsibility of being a mom is full time but it is very important to have at least some minutes in a day by yourself.
Go for a walk or Exercise
When your baby is small, it might not be possible for you to leave the baby at home and join a gym but what you can do is to go for a walk around the block or practice yoga at home. Delegate the task of taking care of the baby or toddler to your husband for half an hour and take a stroll to refresh your mood. Exercise helps to keep you fit and also helps to release happy hormones called Endorphins. Listen to some music while you walk to elevate your spirits!
Enjoy a cup of coffee with your favorite cookies, mindfully
The choice or coffee or tea is up to you. The point is to enjoy your cup mindfully. Try to feel the warmth of the cup, try enjoying the aroma, appreciate your surroundings while you savor the taste. Do this little exercise outdoors so that you can breathe in some Oxygen and enjoy the cool breeze. Practicing mindfulness is meditative and helps you prepare for a challenging day ahead.
Sharing here what a friend shared with and makes perfect sense to focus on positivity.
Take a nap
You must have heard about “sleep when the baby sleeps.” It is very important to catch up on sleep to not end up looking like a Zombie and to give your body ample rest. So, if your toddler or newborn is sleeping in day-time, take that as an opportunity to rest. The house chores can wait. When your baby is small, you and the baby are more important than a pretty house.
Take a relaxing bath
Your toddler is at the playschool for two hours, yippee! Why not turn your bathroom into a spa! Light some aromatic candles, fill up the tub and drop those bath bombs into it. Let the warm water take away your body aches away. Use your favorite loofah and bath gel to wash the stress away. Trust us, this small act of yours can be therapeutic.
First of all, warm water with some Epsom salts helps to reduce your muscle aches. It also is a great way to detox your body. Secondly, good scents and soft music relax your mind and make you feel lighter about life in general. Also, the essential oils in the bath bombs moisturize your skin and make it look healthier. Basically, maximise on your “me time”, soak it in and stay with the pleasant memories.
If you have a new baby, you can express milk and keep aside and any member of the family can take over while you use this time. Obviously, you can’t do it each time, so let your family know a few days in advance that you will be taking an hour or two off on this day.
Write a Diary or a Blog or just Read A Book
Being able to write a diary or blog about your thoughts and experiences is a great way to unload your over-occupied mind. It makes you feel a lot lighter. The best part is that your ways of coping with things and your personal experiences can help so many people, out there. Blog when your child is busy playing or taking a nap or is away for preschool. Maybe just unwind with a book.
Don’t shy from asking for Help
This is one mistake we all moms do, we believe if we ask for help or share with others that we are not able to cope up, then we will lose some kind of rating as a mom. I made the same mistake with my elder one. In the end, I was miserable and cranky every day. Babies are a lot of work and your body is going through changes as well, so take it easy. Just ask for help. If you don’t have family around, hire help. Who doesn’t like a baby? They will be happy to tend to it for some time and that will be your window to relax.
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These were some ideas that can help you feel happy about life and not be overwhelmed with taking care of kids! Trust us on this, you will be a much better sister, mother, and wife if, you make yourself a priority every now and then. So, make sure that you have some “me time” every day, this way or that way.
Purva Bhatia says
Agreed. The key is not being shy of asking for help. It would be impossible to take even 15 minutes off if there is no support system. With a little help, new moms can enjoy some alone time which is very important to remain sane!
Finding time for a new mom is a really difficult responsibility of a baby and the emotional ups and downs etc. But it is so important for a new mom especially it helps to overcome depression
Dipika Singh says
I agree being a mom is a taxing task, and self-time goes on the back burner once we enter motherhood. But these tips are really good and very much achievable.
Sangeeta G says
Me time is very important especially for mother. It is a great way to unwind, relax and rejuvenate.
This is such a gorgeous read! A friend of mine recently had the chance to experience motherhood and she has been having a hectic few months. I bet she would love this post..
Jhilmil Bhansali says
The only way I have sent me time is when I go for a walk and then sit below a tree meditating calmly . Good post for mums.
Nidhi KM says
These are some great points. I loved when you said ‘When Manifesting’. Specially the point which says- feel it, smell it and it will soon become a reality.
Firdaus Peerzada says
Me time is really important for a healthy life. And you have mentioned some really beautiful ways to spend quality time with ourselves.
Neha Jain says
I think this is really important for any new mom to get a few minutes for herself, thank you for sharing this with me.
Prerna Sinha says
So glad that you found it useful.
Mrinal Kiran says
Me time is really necessary for every one around us… And when it is a new mom who is going through so much changes, me time makes a huge difference! I loved all your suggestions, they are really good!
Very nice tips you have given. New moms get super busy and tend to ignore themselves. It’s important to have me-time at this stage.
Priyanka Patwari says
These tips are very helpful for me as a cannot get me time for pampering myself. Thanks for sharing the nice information.
Preetjyot Kaur says
Those are some easy peasy tips. Something that is quite doable. Me Time is what keeps me sane while parenting two naughty kids.
Ruchi Verma says
Now a days it’s important to have me time …n I found mine while joining Zumba and dance classes
When I was a new mum I used to sleep, take a hearty bath and once or twice a month would go to salon for a quick session. These are some very easy and practical ways of finding me time.
Prerna Sinha says
Can I say same pinch :).
Snigdha Prusti says
Oh my, this post is a must needed for moms who always struggle to get some ME time.. I love all points you have mentioned here.