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Is Good Enough For You?

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4 Mar
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Is good not enough for you?

Is good enough for you?

The idea popped on my mind after watching ‘The Good Place’, (a series on Netflix) where Kirsten Stewart talks about a medium place. Why isn’t there a medium place?

Most people I know strive to be their best and are never happy with what they have achieved. This feeling of dissatisfaction can make life always feel incomplete or wanting.

As kids, we are taught to excel and right from childhood to the day we live our last breath we strive to be the best at everything. Somewhere in this journey, we realise our own capabilities and come to terms with it. Some of us have a dancing talent, or a voice like a nightingale and may excel at these but we may absolutely suck at running or writing. The others may be great orators but may have two left feet. We all find our own talents or things we excel at in our journeys. But then there is a lot that may never excel at anything.

No five fingers are alike and imagine a scenario when you have two kids one of whom is a great at academics, sports etc and the other not showing any prowess. What do you think happens?

One child grown up feeling privileged the other feeling like a loser. It’s not that the other one is not good enough, he just doesn’t shine like his sibling. His insecurities multiply with age. Even if he does well he is never confident and always compares his success to his sibling. And the performer sibling may suffer from atelophobia. He also doesn’t know how to handle failure, so much so that these are the kind of kids who will go into depression or even take an extreme step.

A study published in the Journal of Child and Family studies found. Researchers found that children of parents who put pressure on them by “over-managing” their lives at school ended up having higher levels of depression, decreased satisfaction with life and lower levels of autonomy and competence. The researchers concluded that though the parents in the study believed they were being supportive, ultimately this extremely involved parenting style undermined their children’s developing sense of self and confidence.

Why do we put this pressure of always excelling? Is good not good enough? Let’s face it, in a class only top 1-2 % will excel, rest will be good, average or non performers.

CBSE Class 10 results: 1.3 lakh students score above 90%, over 27,000 get more than 95% marks- Business Today.

This still forms just 1-2% of the total number of students. So does that mean, the ones scoring in their 80s did bad? Or will they go through life not achieving anything? Be it academics or sports or any other field in life, it’s true that the ones who excel will get more opportunities initially but the others will learn and do well eventually too.

Exams- To Stress Or Say No To Stress?

What we as parents need to focus on is passion and intention. For if we can fuel the fire in their young minds and hearts then we have set them for life. Winning is good but learning to get from failure is way more important.

 

 

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  1. Jhilmil says

    March 5, 2019 at 05:51

    True the world has become so competitive that parents want kids to excel in everything. Even we try our best to excel with our talents. But I’ve never put stress on my kid, I love things at their own pace.

    Reply
  2. Gunjan (tuggu.n.mommy) says

    March 5, 2019 at 16:02

    very well said, its us we parents who pressurise them with our peer pressure. We need to keep our young babies free from this rat race and let them grow well

    Reply
  3. Varsh says

    March 5, 2019 at 18:01

    I believe that trying to excel isn’t a bad thing but comparing ourselves with others is. While it is good to be happy about ‘being good’ striving to be better can also be beneficial.

    Reply
  4. Mrinal Kiran says

    March 5, 2019 at 18:13

    I cannot express how much I loved this post! This is so so true! I have seen my friends, my cousins face this! Being mediocre is good… People who get Average marks excell in their lives too!

    Reply
  5. Neha Jella says

    March 5, 2019 at 18:45

    Spending time and talking to their child helps to build the bond within the family. This is such a nice article to read and yes I totally agree that we learn from our failure.

    Reply
  6. Deepa says

    March 5, 2019 at 19:11

    Very relevant topic and post. I always stress on this thing and never understand why people push their kids to excel in everything and why they want then to do everything. Hope many parents understand this and let their kids be kids.

    Reply
  7. Jhilmil D Saha says

    March 5, 2019 at 19:34

    Indeed this is a commendable topic to discuss. We as humans always forget to think about these things. You have written it so well. Hat’s off.

    Reply
  8. Snigdha Prusti says

    March 5, 2019 at 20:14

    I love the fact that you posted this at the right time. And it is very true that, putting pressure on kids for study take them into depression.

    Reply
  9. Khushboo says

    March 5, 2019 at 20:15

    That’s a very thoughtful post. I agree with you Winning is good but learning to get from failure is way more important.

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  10. Gurjeet Chhabra says

    March 5, 2019 at 20:24

    I remember my time, I use to mug up day and night and my sibling are so carefree regarding study but they score better than me. Today we have different profession that does not means we are less of each other

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  11. Hema Gayatri says

    March 5, 2019 at 20:50

    I totally enjoyed the write-up. It is a very refreshing post. Totally agree with your point that parents need to focus on is passion and intention.

    Reply
  12. Shub says

    March 5, 2019 at 20:52

    Thought provoking and completely agree with you. Thankfully I didn’t get parents who put stress on me and neither am going to do it for my kids.

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  13. Charu Chittwal says

    March 5, 2019 at 21:06

    Even I feel, sometimes the pressure of marks that a lot of parents put on kids actually makes them ignore their core talent, I loved the blog, will definitely share the link with my friends too, beautifully written ?

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  14. Nisha says

    March 5, 2019 at 21:18

    Totally agree with you. As parents we should try to support their real interest and passion. Education is important but marks are not.

    Reply
  15. sakshi says

    March 8, 2019 at 16:22

    एक हिंदी ब्लॉग है, यहाँ आप अपनी सभी गर्भावस्था से जुड़ी समस्याओं एंवम प्रश्नों के समाधान प्राप्त कर सकती हैं ! हमारे इस ब्लॉग पर आप, आपके प्रेग्नेंट होने से लेकर आपके बच्चे की उम्र 5 साल होने तक, आपकी ज़िंदगी में प्रति दिन होने वाले बदलाव एंवम समस्याओ पर टिप्स पढ सकती है

    Reply

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