The woman in me wants to let go. Yes, I do!
The world is celebrating ‘Women Empowerment’ and her forays into arenas where she has shied away from for many years. Now that we have conquered most of what we were denied. I think I just want to lean back and relax for once.
I know I have spent the last few years battling the cause of women, but somewhere in that, I have put that immense performance pressure on myself. Multitasking comes easily to women, but the more you take on the more standards you are setting for yourself.
This women’s day I started by wondering, who am I trying to prove anything to?
My identity is in being an individual, why do I need to be inspirational to others?
I love being a woman, I love being me.
I am finally awakening to the cause, I want to just celebrate me.
I spent half a lifetime, trying to prove my mettle to myself or to others. I wanted to compete with every man next to me. To prove that I am better than him.
Thirty plus odd years wiser, I can tell you for sure, I would not change anything about myself or my choices or the gender I was born with. But it has taken me these many years to feel confident of myself and belive in me. If I was to look back at my younger twenties self, I wouldn’t be so confident.
Some of us have been raised in more privileged backgrounds than others. We have been raised by moms who have helped us achieve what they couldn’t. We have also been raised by dads who wouldn’t have us compromise our lives and we are raising girls to fend for themselves, to be equal if not better than the boys. Some are not that lucky, they still have to give up their hopes and dreams for families, some are still being abandoned after being born, some are still suffering from dowry.
Roselle Carlos-Toledo says
I love being a woman. I know that there are limitations especially when it comes to physical strength but we are at par or at times better at handling emotional and physical stress. We can choose to be a career woman and not lose our natural domesticated charm of being a caring mom and wife.
Prerna Sinha says
Roselle, well said. Loved the way you ut it :).
Archana Kapoor says
Its absolutely okay to let go!
I like being a powerful woman but at some point I also like to be taken care of and not to worry that I have to do everything by myself, as sometimes that comes as a burden. I just want to take break and have someone else making me dinner for once, for example. 🙂
Subha natarajan says
I love letting go occassionally as well…its impossible to love with such high expectations on a day to day basis..oli completeley agree!!
It does take many years to become self confident enough to speak up und just be what and who you want to be . But it does feel sooo good ? We should have known , all we know and are now , when we were in our 20s. Great reading , really enjoyed and found myself in most you’re saying .
Isn’t it interesting how as women we can fight for a cause and still put the same pressure you are fighting against on yourself? I really liked how you were able to identify that and see it.
Teresa Gumap-as Dumadag says
I agree with you that sometimes it’s ok to let go and be relaxed. There isn’t a need to be always perfect.
For me, women should do nothing to prove themselves… it is the perception towards women that should be changed!
Ever since my dad became disabled, it is my mom who raised us and help us in any possible ways she can… I admire her strength, her determination and the unconditional love that she offered for us and for my dad..
you see, women can do things that men can do….they should prove nothing
The problem is women are often depicted as physically and emotionally weak by our society and they are bein treated that way for a long time.. but in reality and deep inside, these women are really powerful and they can be stronger than men too not just physically but in all aspects of life!
Women carry the children and give birth. Why? Because women can handle that! We are the stronger version of the humans don’t forgot that. A mother is stronger than any lion and would do anything for her baby.
I like to be cared of, but I also like to be empowered. It’s both a blessing and a curse to be a women, don’t you think?
Dorothy Mae C. Torretijo says
Yes!! It’s okay to let go. I agree on you and what a great post indeed!!
Lady Anne Louise Barrun says
I love being a woman too especially today that I am now a mother. It’s a different feeling that not even men can feel. Happy National Women’s Month.
Claire Marie Algarme says
For me, women have special skills and capabilities that men don’t have. The same for men, they have certain abilities that women don’t naturally have. I value my being a woman and my gender’s uniqueness. Yet, our differences shouldn’t be reason to put down each other, because we were born to complement the other. I agree that it’s more of the perception of women being weak that we have to break in our society.
John Penyah says
letting go is just pretty sad. i think men can relate to some of this too :))
Prerna Sinha says
Letting go is not sad, it’s a different perspective. Women take on too much and need to relax. However, if you read the entire blog you will realise that women can’t let go :).
Marge Gavan says
This is such a beautiful piece, very timely also because today is International Women’s Day. I am happy to see women like you who are helping fight for women’s right. God knows, we need people like you. There are many empowered women in this time but there are also many who are powerless and if there are ways we can reach out to those women and help them see their power within, then why not do that. So kudos to you and to this post.
letting go has never been easy, but it’s the ONLY and best thing we can do!
Arrianne Guzman says
Very well said, my dear! Indeed, we should keep our head held high. Salute to women like you who gives inspiration and empowerment to her fellow women.
Letting go is a stress reliever in more ways than one. Women are strong, but sometimes, we just need to lay back, relax, celebrate womanhood, and do what girls do (whatever it is that we claim to, haha). Thanks for sticking to the cause! More power to you!
I admit, even if it sometimes hurts (cause PMS and all) and sometimes we’re called the crazy ones (cause mood swings), I agree with you. I love being a woman. I wouldn’t change me either. 🙂 I hope every women feels the same.
Well, Happy International Women’s day! It feels so good to be confident in your skin, it takes a while and everyone struggles with it, so it helps being surrounded with people who support you. 🙂
It’s beautiful to be a woman. Our being soft-hearted or weak are innate, but we can also show that we are strong. Like you who is fearless to say your ideas and purpose in life – to become better, be respected and be fulfilled
Mhaan A says
It is fine to let go for you to enjoy more of your life. Happy women’s day!
Mimi Gonzales says
Letting go is not bad. Sometimes we owe it all to ourselves. I’m proud to be a woman, and all these reasons here just justify how being one can be such an empowering one 🙂
Maerose JS says
It is woman’s nature to overanalyze, overthink, overworry. We are wired to be that way, so there’s nothing wrong with that. Letting go is also okay from time to time. But acceptance is the key factor to being happy with who and what you are. Men are different. Sometimes, we fail to see they are wired differently. And they, too, sometimes fail to see that women are wired differently. That’s why we compete with one another. If we acknowledge the fact that different wirings exists, then we will learn to accept things as they are and we will be happy! I am not saying that one gender is superior over the other. What I’m actually saying is that we are different and so, there’s no need to compete. 😉 Just my two cents. Cheers!