Raising the bar ………rearing the children:
Even before I start here,Iwant to say been a WM(working woman) and now a HM I don’t underestimate a working woman’s commitment to her child ,ever. Infact ,before I argue on the HM’s side i will first dedicate my post to them and then justify my point.
When i quit my job,it was a bad phase,mother-in-law was terminally ill, Eeshan was not talking (he was 3 years and it was alarming),recession had set in so the office fired my boss and my assistant .Which meant late hours at work ,more neglect at home,grieving in-laws etc.So,finally i decided to quit!Not sure if it was the best thing to do then,but honestly I had ,had it!
Of course,mom-in-law passed away in a month of my quitting,but Eeshan was a happier child and I too welcomed a break from my hectic stressful life.I was so guilt laden because even though I was trying hard to balance my personal life and professional,no one thought I was doing enough justice.Now I Irealize ,it was my guilt and myself more than anyone else responsible to take such a drastic decision.Let me tell you here I loved my job and was good at it,but guilt took over.How many of us here have been successful career women and then just given everything away to have babies and raise them?Why do we dwell in guilt so much?A lot of my friends who are working suffer from guilt as they are not able to spend enough time with their children.But isn’t it about quality and not quantity ?There is a friend ,who stays in my building and whenever i see her child i always admire him,he is so confidant and self dependent. I don’t see him missing out on any developments.
Now coming back to the HMs.Gone are the days when we took our mothers for granted who were meant to raise us as their biggest calling in life(in our minds and maybe in theirs too!) .Today if a woman even if she is a HM ,it is her conscious decision that she is being one,because it’s no more just raising children.It is taking them to their various classes ,preparing them for numerous competitions in school and about an all round development .Not to forget filling the calender with vaccinations dates, counselling sessions, nutritious meal plans ,play dates etc.The world has totally changed around us and so have the needs and demands of our kids.Even we are not satisfied by the child doing well in academics,he or she has to has it the best!Best school,curriculum,best tutions,environment (which apart from school means the society you stay in).And ofcourse the more unemployed you are the more energy you will invest in these areas,I can’t even begin to mention the length in which parents research and indulge for their kids needs. HMs ,I would say,it’s about giving your job a 100%,and we all know when you give it all the results are definitely better.You can replace this with nanny or even a daycare,but the cost of it is phenomenal!So ,thats where HMs have an advantage.
My hubby read the blog and he is confused,which side am I on here?Do I even make my point clear?I have thought about it and reread my blog.The problem is I can’t choose a clear winner here because when it comes to children ,all mothers are same….devoted!So ,here no debate just and ode to HMs and WMs :0)!Kudos to Moms!
Even before I start here,Iwant to say been a WM(working woman) and now a HM I don’t underestimate a working woman’s commitment to her child ,ever. Infact ,before I argue on the HM’s side i will first dedicate my post to them and then justify my point.
When i quit my job,it was a bad phase,mother-in-law was terminally ill, Eeshan was not talking (he was 3 years and it was alarming),recession had set in so the office fired my boss and my assistant .Which meant late hours at work ,more neglect at home,grieving in-laws etc.So,finally i decided to quit!Not sure if it was the best thing to do then,but honestly I had ,had it!
Of course,mom-in-law passed away in a month of my quitting,but Eeshan was a happier child and I too welcomed a break from my hectic stressful life.I was so guilt laden because even though I was trying hard to balance my personal life and professional,no one thought I was doing enough justice.Now I Irealize ,it was my guilt and myself more than anyone else responsible to take such a drastic decision.Let me tell you here I loved my job and was good at it,but guilt took over.How many of us here have been successful career women and then just given everything away to have babies and raise them?Why do we dwell in guilt so much?A lot of my friends who are working suffer from guilt as they are not able to spend enough time with their children.But isn’t it about quality and not quantity ?There is a friend ,who stays in my building and whenever i see her child i always admire him,he is so confidant and self dependent. I don’t see him missing out on any developments.
Now coming back to the HMs.Gone are the days when we took our mothers for granted who were meant to raise us as their biggest calling in life(in our minds and maybe in theirs too!) .Today if a woman even if she is a HM ,it is her conscious decision that she is being one,because it’s no more just raising children.It is taking them to their various classes ,preparing them for numerous competitions in school and about an all round development .Not to forget filling the calender with vaccinations dates, counselling sessions, nutritious meal plans ,play dates etc.The world has totally changed around us and so have the needs and demands of our kids.Even we are not satisfied by the child doing well in academics,he or she has to has it the best!Best school,curriculum,best tutions,environment (which apart from school means the society you stay in).And ofcourse the more unemployed you are the more energy you will invest in these areas,I can’t even begin to mention the length in which parents research and indulge for their kids needs. HMs ,I would say,it’s about giving your job a 100%,and we all know when you give it all the results are definitely better.You can replace this with nanny or even a daycare,but the cost of it is phenomenal!So ,thats where HMs have an advantage.
My hubby read the blog and he is confused,which side am I on here?Do I even make my point clear?I have thought about it and reread my blog.The problem is I can’t choose a clear winner here because when it comes to children ,all mothers are same….devoted!So ,here no debate just and ode to HMs and WMs :0)!Kudos to Moms!
