Too much of gyaan has happened over the last few weeks from my side. I just thought of doing a fun post for my readers. As someone asked me, what makes me credited enough to pass gyaan(knowledge) around. I am not qualified, I am just another parent like you who likes to share her learning and unlearning in the journey of motherhood. And I love it when you all respond and add your experiences to it. So do remember to leave your comments at the end of the post.
Today I have created four important stages of parenting for you and will be using these in my future posts. So happy reading :)!!
When your child is born(Infant)
This is the stage of life which I name parents as ‘stress-boppers’. They stress even if the child is sleeping, pooping, feeding less or more. Infact, in their quest to be ‘good parents’, and being completely new at their job, they end up stressing on everything.
Now your kid is up and about, and able to balance himself. The concerns here rise from the kid falling down, while trying to run. Temper tantrums, the terrible twos, their kids not eating food that they used to like, leave the parents baffled. They are more capable of getting into trouble and causing it for you too. Silence is not golden here, but means trouble is brewing up. This stage of parenting, is what I like to name the ‘Always-on-the-watch Parenting’.
Meet the Tweens
Now your kid is independent. You don’t have to worry to feed, cloth or bathe him. But, your problems don’t end here. Infact, they have just started. As the name suggests tween is the preview of teens. So you see all tantrums, talking back and early signs of teens here. Your kid goes from ‘happy’ to ‘snappy’. A huge change from that perfectly obedient child, you had. I am currently in this stage and trust me there are happy days and fighting days. You are confused between being a friend or a strict parent. You end up somewhere in between. I would name it ‘the balance-challenged-parents‘
The Not so Adult Teens
This stage is best explained by Stuart Goldman, MD, director of psychiatric education at Children’s Hospital in Boston. “Adolescence is a time of rapid change for kids both physically and cognitively,” he explains. “It’s the task of the teenager to fire their parents and then re-hire them years later, but as consultants rather than managers.”
This is the most challenging stage in parenthood. Though I am still to reach there, I do remember my days as a teenager. I gave my parents a tough time. Now, I already dread my future. In this stage, the peers are more important than parents. The tantrums and mood swings are huge. Kids feel the need for space more than ever and isolate the parents in the process. Every time you face this, you have to remember your teenage and the stage when you bounced back. Just let your kids be and be around them from a distance, so that when they don’t have to shout for you when they need you. This stage is of ‘discreet Parenting’.
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Even after knowing all this, I love being a mom and I am sure there is nothing you too can compare to your child’s love. So don’t get scared just enjoy as it comes :)!
disclaimer: The terms used in this blog post are my own. I have created these as per my understanding and experiences. They are not technical and I am not a child psychologist. This is just a fun read. So if you have a difference of opinion, I do understand. But please refrain from singling this post out and no brash comments will be entertained. Hope you do enjoy reading the post though.