Some of my biggest life lessons came from my mom and some, I picked up along the way. She taught me to be gentle by choice and while she taught me to be strong in adversity, she sacrificed her happiness for her loved ones. Whether we realize it or not, we are absorbing so much from our moms and other moms around us.
When I became a mom, I learned from her that parenting is not taught in schools. We become parents by choice but we grow as parents only by experience. Our parenting decisions are based on our instincts and what we are learning every day from our experiences. While sometimes we may falter and fail there is always a learning.
As a mom and a wife, I’m the woman of the house and so I am responsible for running my family along with my busy schedule. In the initial years of my motherhood, I got so lost in all of this that somewhere I forgot myself and felt miserable. Funny thing is that I didn’t realize for the longest time but, my family had to bear the brunt of my temper tantrums and mood swings. And then one day, I decided to start loving myself back, slowly reclaiming my life through the little things that I do. Today, I’m going to share a word of advice with all of you like an informed mom would give to other moms.
Spend some quality time with your kid. This does not mean taking up lessons, or watching TV or being glued to devices. Instead, use this time to really talk and interact with your kid. They might take a while to take to it. Always maintain eye contact while asking questions for you can judge their answers with their reactions.
Do an activity together. Be it dancing, or swimming or just playing a board game. These kinds of distressing activities work well to bond with kids and sometimes, you need to do the same with your husband too.
Pay attention to your family and your health for, while it may be a cliché, a healthy family is always a happy family. After all, who likes to visit a doctor or a hospital? Follow a healthy diet and make sure everyone in the family increases their intake of fruits and vegetables to improve their immunity. As the seasons change, you need to make sure you are well-equipped to handle it all. While summer requires a higher intake of fruits and water, winters need you to make sure you are well clad and that you eat food that gives warmth to your body. Before sending your kids down to play, apply 4 dots of Goodknight Fabric Roll-On on their clothes and keep them protected from mosquitoes. For ensuring mosquito protection at home, do not let any water collect as it may become a breeding ground for mosquitoes.
If you are a new mom, you might be sinking in poo smells, diapers, whining baby, sleepless nights, under eye bags, sagging tummy and more. There is only one thing I can tell you, mommy, hang on, it gets better! Even if you didn’t fall in love with your baby on day one, it will grow on you, it’s as sure as Newton’s law. You are not a bad mom, you just are trying to get a hang of things. We all are, some of us are brave enough to admit it, while the others are not. I am still not over my first few years and now, my kid is almost twelve!
Live for yourself too. Love your family, be a superwoman; most of us are! But do not forget to take time out for yourself. ‘Me time’ is not a frivolous concept, it is much-needed. So remember to care for yourself – a happy you means you can keep your family happy too.
Keep your friends close. As the kids grow older and husbands get busier, they are the ones that will stick by you and be your sounding board. And also learning to enjoy your time away from family and friends is important to reflect and relax. Discover yourself!
There are two kinds of moms, the ‘Yes moms’ and the ‘No moms’ if you know what I mean. Do remember that finding a balance between being the two kinds is what will sail your boat.
Make memories, don’t run too much after results. Let go of things that trouble you, they are not worth it. Cut negativity from life. Let your kids mess up. Don’t judge people and don’t let others judge your parenting style.
Don’t try to be a Superwoman! Ask for help, involve your partner, family, kids, everyone. It’s more important to be happy.
I have come to realize that my entire value system has been shaped by two things:
- My experiences
- My mom’s advice
And the acknowledgment that she was right. It took me all my experiences consolidated through my life to realize that, so moms don’t ignore the advice I am passing on today because one day you will come back to this blog and say, she had said so.
Ruchi Verma says
Thanks for sharing these lessons with us..really I too feel most important is taking care of health of family..
Jiya B says
It is so important for a mom to take care of her family and health. Well said I use goodnight fabric roll on and it works magical My heart goes down when I see mosquito bite on my childs skin but now its great I am happy with Goodnight fabric roll on.
Rakhi Parsai says
Couldn’t agree more with you. Parenting is not taught in school and these are some lessons which life teaches us on the go. Some we learn from our own experiences and some we learn from others. It’s important to take the best out of all and incorporate into our parenting style. Also one of the points I personally liked was taking care of family health. We have been using Goodnight roll on for the entire family for over 3months and are so happy with it.
Minakshi bajpai says
Just wonderful piece of advice for all moms. your tips are worthful to remember. I agree that we moms should enjoy some me time too because if moms are happy then she can make others happy too. Like your post.
Lovely post , indeed Me time is something we all women need , and friends are gems. I can never imagine life without friends. Thanks for these life lessons.
So true. You know I have realised in the garb of discipline I keep saying no to my twins all the time. I need to balance out, yes I do
Some bits of your advice actually made sense. When i started out being a mom i felt like i would never be able to do justice to my role, but thanks to advice from experience and my mom, i feel a lot more in control now.
It’s a lovely and useful post for mommies.. It’s important to have me time..
Reetuparna Saha says
A mother is a multitasking lady. No doubt they are pretty well informed as well and enriched with major life lessons.
For me post motherhood, family health & well being comes first. If my son is sick I am not able to concentrate on my work. I can totally resonate with your tips. I have also learnt to be a lot more in control of a situation and the way to react on it.
Wow this truly looks like an informed mom taking… I am sure new moms will thank you for this post..
Preeti tiwari says
Being a mom love ur kids and family but yes me time is also important; lovely write up…
Nidhi KM says
As always your article is inspiring and radiating positive energy. You have provided guidance on various subjects to ensure Mommies know the best way to be high spirited! Thanks!!
Sarah Taylor says
My mom actually just visited me recently here in Charlottesville – she was my first official overnight guest in Virginia. I’ve lived out of state from my family in Maine since I first went to college in 2012- almost six years ago now! Living far away from my mom most of the time now makes me think differently about the in-person time that we do get to spend together each year.