Some of my biggest life lessons came from my mom and some, I picked up along the way. She taught me to be gentle by choice and while she taught me to be strong in adversity, she sacrificed her happiness for her loved ones. Whether we realize it or not, we are absorbing so much from our moms and other moms around us.
When I became a mom, I learned from her that parenting is not taught in schools. We become parents by choice but we grow as parents only by experience. Our parenting decisions are based on our instincts and what we are learning every day from our experiences. While sometimes we may falter and fail there is always a learning.
As a mom and a wife, I’m the woman of the house and so I am responsible for running my family along with my busy schedule. In the initial years of my motherhood, I got so lost in all of this that somewhere I forgot myself and felt miserable. Funny thing is that I didn’t realize for the longest time but, my family had to bear the brunt of my temper tantrums and mood swings. And then one day, I decided to start loving myself back, slowly reclaiming my life through the little things that I do. Today, I’m going to share a word of advice with all of you like an informed mom would give to other moms.
Spend some quality time with your kid. This does not mean taking up lessons, or watching TV or being glued to devices. Instead, use this time to really talk and interact with your kid. They might take a while to take to it. Always maintain eye contact while asking questions for you can judge their answers with their reactions.
Do an activity together. Be it dancing, or swimming or just playing a board game. These kinds of distressing activities work well to bond with kids and sometimes, you need to do the same with your husband too.
Pay attention to your family and your health for, while it may be a cliché, a healthy family is always a happy family. After all, who likes to visit a doctor or a hospital? Follow a healthy diet and make sure everyone in the family increases their intake of fruits and vegetables to improve their immunity. As the seasons change, you need to make sure you are well-equipped to handle it all. While summer requires a higher intake of fruits and water, winters need you to make sure you are well clad and that you eat food that gives warmth to your body. Before sending your kids down to play, apply 4 dots of Goodknight Fabric Roll-On on their clothes and keep them protected from mosquitoes. For ensuring mosquito protection at home, do not let any water collect as it may become a breeding ground for mosquitoes.
If you are a new mom, you might be sinking in poo smells, diapers, whining baby, sleepless nights, under eye bags, sagging tummy and more. There is only one thing I can tell you, mommy, hang on, it gets better! Even if you didn’t fall in love with your baby on day one, it will grow on you, it’s as sure as Newton’s law. You are not a bad mom, you just are trying to get a hang of things. We all are, some of us are brave enough to admit it, while the others are not. I am still not over my first few years and now, my kid is almost twelve!
Live for yourself too. Love your family, be a superwoman; most of us are! But do not forget to take time out for yourself. ‘Me time’ is not a frivolous concept, it is much-needed. So remember to care for yourself – a happy you means you can keep your family happy too.
Keep your friends close. As the kids grow older and husbands get busier, they are the ones that will stick by you and be your sounding board. And also learning to enjoy your time away from family and friends is important to reflect and relax. Discover yourself!
There are two kinds of moms, the ‘Yes moms’ and the ‘No moms’ if you know what I mean. Do remember that finding a balance between being the two kinds is what will sail your boat.
Make memories, don’t run too much after results. Let go of things that trouble you, they are not worth it. Cut negativity from life. Let your kids mess up. Don’t judge people and don’t let others judge your parenting style.
Don’t try to be a Superwoman! Ask for help, involve your partner, family, kids, everyone. It’s more important to be happy.
I have come to realize that my entire value system has been shaped by two things:
- My experiences
- My mom’s advice
And the acknowledgment that she was right. It took me all my experiences consolidated through my life to realize that, so moms don’t ignore the advice I am passing on today because one day you will come back to this blog and say, she had said so.